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January 7th, 2011


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08:35 am
What a crap day, yesterday.

It opened well enough, with me giving a friend some advice about his illness over the phone, and then almost immediately thereafter, we learned that another friend's 18-year-old son had hung himself. I'm fairly articulate, but I just don't have the words to express myself. We've known this child from his and his twin's birth, and we've watched him grow, and we're stunned.

Work was very busy, with me making eleven stops between hospitals, nursing homes and house calls, and even there I got another kick in the crotch when I had to break the news to a woman that she has metastatic breast cancer. She didn't take it well, of course. That's when the headache started.

It seemed like forever, but I finally got home. My beloved was kind enough to feed me some delicious duck and bacon sausages, which hit the spot nicely. I then tried to vegetate with the TV. I cleared the DVR, and then put on a newly-arrived DVD from Netflix of ST:DS9, but near the end of the second episode, the DVD failed. Ack.

I finished the evening with another disc, Lone Wolf and Cub: Sword of Vengeance, a movie, not a TV show, and I found that although the gore was over the top, the cinematography and use of terrain was better than in the TV series I recently watched. Not bad. Same adventures as in the manga, apparently.

(29 comments | Speak, or forever hold your peace)

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From:moonsinger
Date:January 7th, 2011 04:38 pm (UTC)
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I'm so sorry for your loss; I'll have the boy's family in my prayers.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 7th, 2011 04:50 pm (UTC)
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That's good of you. They're in the midst of a very difficult time, indeed.

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From:anaisdjuna
Date:January 7th, 2011 05:32 pm (UTC)
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I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend's son so young. Gentleness to all who mourn his death.

Being a healthcare provider is good work, but it can't be easy very often. Gentleness for that too.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:25 am (UTC)
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I haven't been able to reach him (no surprise, really), but I've left a message offering any help he might need. Talk about feeling powerless, though...

I also have spent some time calling my friends who also know the father; passing the word. Still, it doesn't help with the shock.

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From:anaisdjuna
Date:January 8th, 2011 07:33 am (UTC)
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It's like a giant rushing ocean of feelings pour out at once into too small of a container. There is power in reaching out & in the warmth of care.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 04:14 pm (UTC)
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Yes, reaching out is the direction I've taken.
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From:jenny_rambles
Date:January 7th, 2011 06:41 pm (UTC)
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Oh god, how sad. :(
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:26 am (UTC)
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Indeed. I'm gobsmacked.

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From:brokenheather
Date:January 7th, 2011 06:43 pm (UTC)
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I'm sorry about your loss...my heart goes out to the boy's family.

You had a rough day - today will be better.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:27 am (UTC)
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I suspect that it would require the intervention of the Flying Spaghetti Monster to really improve my mood...

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From:trizia
Date:January 7th, 2011 06:45 pm (UTC)
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*hugs*
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:27 am (UTC)
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Thanks.
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From:stacymckenna
Date:January 7th, 2011 07:45 pm (UTC)
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My condolences - both on the hearing of bad news, and on the bearing of it. Neither position is pleasant.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:28 am (UTC)
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Thanks. However, you'll understand that the condolences I'll deflect to the father.

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From:stacymckenna
Date:January 9th, 2011 07:19 pm (UTC)
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Entirely.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 10th, 2011 03:40 pm (UTC)
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*Bows*.

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From:sekl
Date:January 7th, 2011 07:48 pm (UTC)
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Some days just suck. Glad you had duck and bacon sausages to welcome you home.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:28 am (UTC)
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Oh, yes. Absolutely. Did you ever have 'em at the Carnivore's Feast? Those.

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From:pondhopper
Date:January 7th, 2011 08:07 pm (UTC)
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It's impossible to know what to say in the face of such a young death and to bear bad news also makes words hard. Your job has its upside but also a very steep downside.
I'm so sorry.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:30 am (UTC)
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It's not the first time that I've had to tell a patient that they have cancer, so my training kicked in.

What kills me is that this isn't the first time that a friend or acquaintance has had a child commit suicide. Now that's a tragedy of the first water!

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From:rince1wind
Date:January 7th, 2011 11:15 pm (UTC)
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Terrible day for many. I'm very sorry to hear it.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:31 am (UTC)
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I hope it's not too much to ask for a week or so of some good news, or at least NEUTRAL news to balance accounts, but that's not the way the world works...
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From:realpestilence
Date:January 7th, 2011 11:52 pm (UTC)
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I don't think there's any way ~anybody could express themselves over the loss of someone like that. I'm sorry.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:34 am (UTC)
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I agree.

What really hurts the most is that forestcats and I have known this boy from birth, and we have stories we tell about him. Now, they aren't fun anymore; they are sad.

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From:hummingwolf
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:04 am (UTC)
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I'm sorry you had such a painful day.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 12:34 am (UTC)
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Thanks.

Posting helps. A little.

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From:varianor
Date:January 8th, 2011 05:48 am (UTC)
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Bill, I sit in awe of your resilience and in sorrow for another day of delivering bad news. You are a gentleman and a scholar and a good soul. There are few of you in the world. Please do not stop and please do take what rest you can. Even the calm way in which you write about your day is soothing. I hope that you receive a good night's sleep at least.
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From:mycroftca
Date:January 8th, 2011 04:13 pm (UTC)
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There's good days, such as when I realize that I'm seeing multiple generations in a single family, and bad days, like Thursday. It balances out.

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From:mycroftca
Date:January 9th, 2011 08:12 am (UTC)
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Thanks.

He's remarried, and I'm sure that his wife is holding him close, just now.

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